Daniel 2:33-34 NIV
[33] its legs of iron, its feet partly of iron and partly of baked clay. [34] While you were watching, a rock was cut out, but not by human hands. It struck the statue on its feet of iron and clay and smashed them.
Part 2: BEING LIKE-MINDED
King Nebuchadnezzar had a dream about a giant statue crushed down by a rock from above, needed someone to interpret it and as always the Astrologers,Magicians and Diviners in his time couldn't until Daniel stepped in.
I know by now you're wondering what has this scripture got to do with a marriage series? hold your horses, I'll break it down in a bit.
Let's take marriage to be a Building, we have the foundation, the pillars and the structure itself.
By now we all know the foundation plays a crucial part in the durability and stability of the house, If you don't well now you do.
A house built on bad foundation cannot stand the test of time when storm strikes.
Jesus in one of his sermons said: "a man once built his house on a rock and the other on sand, when the storm came it hit against both houses and only the house built on rock remained"(paraphrased)
Good architects spend a lot of time and resources working on the foundation of a building depending on the type of land they have. The stronger the foundation the more guaranteed they are of building a house that would stay a long time without collapsing whether built in a waterlogged area or not.
In today's scripture we see a fault in the way this statue was constructed. The feet(foundation) was made off two different materials: Iron and clay, two things that do not go together as one is stronger than the other.(Just like oil and water) Depsite every other material being of good quality, the builder neglected the most important part which is the foundation of his structure as do most of us when picking life partners.
We divert all our attention to the structure (Wedding ceremony) rather than spending time building quality foundation. We neglect the most important part and dive straight to the last stage. Some don't even bother about the entire building from scratch to finish cause they are too busy fixing the aesthetics( house, good paying job, looks, culinary skills etc.) See part 1 of this series for more details.
What does the term MARRIAGE mean?
Marriage is simply defined as two things coming together to form one body or entity.
This means i bring my soul you bring yours and we become one soul,not two souls living in two different bodies but one soul two bodies.
Relax this doesn't make you man and wife just yet lol!! You still have a long way to go..
Being-like minded is being in agreement, being in perfect alignment. Like Amos 3:3 says; Can two walk together except they be in agreement?
There's no marriage without both parties being in sync, striking a balance when it comes to decision making, thinking, acting or even living. In fact the real marriage begins when you both come together as one in thoughts if i do say so myself.
Mutual understanding, respect for each other's differences and lifestyles, acceptance of one another's flaws, being vulnerable and not ashamed, having a common ground as regards both your lives and guarding what you share against external interference.
This is the foundation of marriage.
Not sex, looks, money, family background, educational background and what have you.
When the rock(unforseen storm) struck the gaint statue, it destroyed the entire structure from head to toe because they were not in perfect alignment. It didn't mind that the head was made of gold, or the legs of bronze, it all came tumbling down.
The iron had potential against the storm, but the clay did not. They came together but only outwardly as they were in disarray inwardly. More like a beautiful house but terrible interiors.
They, just as most of us fell for the hype and went on building castles in the air,quickly getting to the interior decorating part forfeiting the most important part of marriage: BEING IN AGREEMENT.
Nobody wants a picture perfect couple who can't stand each others presence when the cameras and lights are off.
Power couple, but deep down you resent one another. You have become so good an Actor that you've lost touch of reality but each time you go home loneliness throws you a feast with 7 course meals.
He has his own life, you have yours, you've carved a coping mechanism for yourselves and tagged it *open relationship* He sleeps around, you do same. You tell yourselves you're in it for the kids all the while destroying the lives of the said kids you claimed to be doing it for.
When you minor on the major and vice versa, you end up in a shattered and emotionally exasperating marriage.
You have a house not a home. It is a home(like mindedness) for a house(cohabiting in a physical structure) not a house for a home. Read that again.
The worse thing that can happen to any married person is not being at home in their own home. You would rather be elsewhere than with the person you swore to spend forever with. You feel suffocated by them and silently wish they'll just die so it doesn't seem like you broke the Christian code that states "Thou shall not divorce"
Everything they do irritates you, even things you found attractive doesn't seem appealing to you anymore. All you see is a goat you want to chase away from you presence as quickly and quietly as possible.
70 if not 80% of marriages in the world today fits perfectly into this shoe. They make the singles resent marriage, you look around and all you see is another reason to stay unmarried, increasing the rate of premarital and extramarital affairs.
This isn't the Creator's plan for us at all.
I mean not everyone would get married, but if you must then why not do it rightly?
Is there hope for the singles at all? If yes then how can we do it differently and do it better?
Well you'll have to wait one more night to find out.
Join us tomorrow as we speak on HOW TO BE LIKE-MINDED.
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